For many people I see who have been diagnosed as an adult, ADHD has been a traumatic experience. Because it is invisible and manifests in behaviors that one should be able to “just stop,” or self-correct, it’s difficult to understand how things like chronic lateness, forgetfulness, or losing belongings is part of ADHD and not a personal character flaw. This leads to shame, conflict, judgment and disdain from others, etc.
Working through the pain and loss that comes with realizing how one’s past difficulties could have been eased is brave. There are ways to change and adjust. There are ways to forgive oneself for not being able to personally change your brain chemistry when it looks like you should be able to control impulses like interrupting others or losing focus.
I work with adults individually and have groups on these topics. Please visit my website to learn more. Email is the best way to contact me.